We are living in a community where relationship is one of the most valuable things in life. This relationship can be between family members, partners, lovers, friends, colleagues, church members, civic organizations and the like. We value relationship so much that we try to keep it no matter how much it takes. We avoid hurting others in our actions and our words. We make others feel special – we surprise them, we give them gifts, etc. We show care and concern. We protect each others’ interest. We initiate activities that will bond us and make our relationship stronger. We do anything just to make others happy and feel good about themselves. Some times, we’re trying to please everyone.

Why do many of us do this? Simply because of our desire to be accepted, be loved, be part of the group and other reasons. We also try to avoid fights, grudges, pain, arguments, disagreements, misunderstanding and the like.

However, no matter how hard we try, people still get hurt. No matter how tactful we are; no matter how caring and sincere we are; no matter how we try to protect our relationship with other people, we can never avoid misunderstanding and appear to be bias . There’s even worse, we are adjudged as someone else.

Some times the more we try to please everyone, the more relationships are destroyed; the more issues come out, the more misunderstanding we get into, the more pain others feel, the more trust are broken and the more egos getting hurt.

We really can’t please everyone because we are PEOPLE. Our individual differences – our beliefs and perceptions, our values and characters, our priorities and everything within us, always contradicts with one or another. That no matter how much effort we exert to keep all the relationships that we have in the society that we live, we will always come out as unpleasing to someone else and may lead to a broken relationship.

It’s really hard to please everyone. What matters is that we know which relationships are really important to us. With that, we know whom we will share enough time and exert effort; we know what relationship are worth keeping and worth protecting.

Therefore, at times we are misunderstood, ignored and adjudged for trying to be that someone pleasing to everyone, it’s time to remind ourselves that trying to PLEASE EVERYONE is PLEASING NO ONE.